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Author, Mary E. De Muth has captured my heart once again in her latest release, Life in Defiance.* Although this is the third novel in her trilogy including Daisy Chain and A Slow Burn, this book can stand on its own. In Ouisie Pepper, the main character, Mary has created a person so real, so touching, so true in her life of sorrow, that on more than one occasion I forgot this book is a work of fiction, and found myself praying for her.

I lost part of myself when my husband died. A good part. Bad enough. Ouisie loses herself bit by bit, day after day, while Hap, her Pastor husband grinds her down with his physical abuse and distorted spiritual applications of Biblical submission.

When she tries everything to please him…and indirectly, God…I see myself in her, in my own brand of grief, trying to find my worth through “doing” in my new normal without a husband. It doesn’t work.

This book is a fascinating read, told in stunning words…shocking in its depths of truth about the cruelty of mankind in the name of God.

The author doesn’t leave us there however. While Ouisie tries, without success, to satisfy her “thirst” with alcohol, Mary weaves in the ultimate comfort: God’s free gift of love and redemption through Christ, the source of living water.

What comforts you in loss?

*Zondervan provided me with a review copy of this book.

For more information on Mary E. De Muth and her books, see her website: <a href=”http://www.marydemuth.com”>www.marydemuth.com. To order a copy of Life in Defiance, see this link to Amazon:

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Thin Places

Mary De Muth’s latest book, Thin Places*, released this week by Zondervan Publishing, is a moving memoir of childhood abuse, neglect and loss.

This is a story that needed to be told. In fact shouted out, for all the little girls and grown-up girls who have endured, or who are enduring, the same horror Mary went through. They are not alone. God is in the “thin places” of our lives–those places where He meets us in our tragedies, and reaches out to us with Love.

Mary is a gifted writer. Her soul shines through every page. She speaks openly of her repeated abuse at the tender age of five, by two older boys. At the time, she tells no one. When her parents divorce, she is distanced from her father’s daily presence. At age ten, she loses him entirely, through his death. After a few months, her silent grief spills out loud.

Her mother responds, “You need to be over that now.”

Mary does not leave us with loss however. This is also a story of redemption. At age fifteen, she meets Jesus in her “daddy-less” thin place and God becomes her heavenly Father.

Mary states in Thin Places: “Despite my daddy-shaped hole, despite my own gnawing need, Jesus stands before me, arms spread wide as a cornfield, beckoning me to belong to Him.”

In a later chapter, she adds, “Like the Prodigal’s father, God flat out runs to me…, twirls me in His arms like a father would, and whispers, “I love you, Mary. Rest now. I’m not the father who died. I’m not the mother who didn’t notice. I’m the One who loves you enough to run across a room.”

After reading Thin Places, I long to be as transparent in my writing as Mary is. Long to create, as she does, beautiful word images. Most of all, I long to love Jesus in His redemption of me in my losses, with the same abandonment and passion that Mary radiates throughout this remarkable book.

What are your thin places? Has God met you there?

*Zondervan provided me with a review copy of this book.

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