Archive for July, 2011

On the first anniversary of her husband’s death, my friend Kelly chose to celebrate Mike’s life by gathering with their friends at an Art Extravaganza. One-hundred-thousand paper airplanes mingled with the clouds and drifted down to waiting hands below.

When the same anniversary of my husband’s death rolled around, I hid out in my apartment and focused on Bill’s moment of passing from this world to the next.

Kelly shed her tears in community; I shed mine alone.

There is no right or wrong way to go through these landmarks of loss. I listened to my heart and did what I needed to at the time, as did Kelly.

How do you deal with those important dates of your loved one? What’s right for you?


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Nine years after my status in life changed from “married” to “widow”, I’m able to put my memories of Bill in my back pocket. I take them out at will without pain, and return them there without guilt, or fear of forgetting him.

Safe now in the harbor of Heaven,  Bill remains for me…as God says of His own…”my beloved.”*

*Deuteronomy 33: 12.

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